9 Tips for Better Small Talk
For many, the idea of engaging in small talk can seem as appealing as a trip to the dentist: "How's the weather?", "What was the traffic like?", "How's it going?". If any of these interludes make you cringe, don't worry, you're not alone.
Turns out the reason we don't like small talk isn't because it's awkward (though it can be), it's because we all prefer creating deeper connections with people. However, you can't create better connections without going through a little small talk first. Reframing it this way it might help you the next time you're engaged in idle banter.
Think of it not as SMALL talk, nor as the BIG talks reserved for those closest to you, but rather as OTHERTALK. We've created this module using the anagram OTHERTALK, to help you recall the lessons. As you're navigating through your next "small talk" remember OTHERTALK and watch yourself turn it into a more meaningful conversation.
In each section we have included examples, questions, or comments to encourage better "small talk" conversations with your customers. In the spaces provided below please write one or two examples of your own to let us know you understand the section topic.
TEACHING opportunities are in every interaction. Be curious about people. As mentioned in the above example, conversations keep rolling when you let others share. You'll find your interactions more enjoyable for both parties when you're fully engaged.
Honesty is always the best policy. A great interaction comes from finding mutual connections. The best way to connect is through honesty. Break down the wall by sharing something about yourself; they will see you as someone who is in their corner.
Empathize with your customers, understanding that they feel awkward with small talk too! You are not alone in feeling shy or clumsy in small talk scenarios. Next time there is an weird silence, find a way to break the ice.
Read a section or two of the newspaper, watch a segment of a morning program, subscribe to a topical blog or podcast and find great conversation starters! Keep two or three in your back pocket and you'll never search for something to talk about.
Take tips from good conversationalists. Listen to senior CSRs and Managers, and copy how they handle customer conversations. Pay attention to talkshow hosts, emcees or real people you admire. Try replicating what they do.
Ask the golden question - "What can I do to make sure you are happy with our service?" When dealing with frustrated customers, it's never enough to just solve the problem. The point is to find out what would make them happy. All you have to do is ask!
Lift your customer up! People always remember how you make them feel. Try to make your customers feel a little better for having spoken with you. Boost your customers' moods and good feelings by celebrating or flattering them.
Know who your customer is. Show interest. Make it your goal! When you're not interested in your customer, it shows. When you don't care, conversations fall flat and can lead to negative feelings.
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