Assertive Communication skills

Those who find being assertive difficult often assume that everyone else finds it easy. They don't.

We all have a tendency to think others are different. Applying assertion tips and techniques can

seem as difficult as eating green vegetables. It takes discipline, but the rewards you'll receive are

worth it

Assertive Communication Skills Overview

The term 'assertiveness' is limiting but for instance, you should be assertive rather than aggressive, as if assertiveness is the only way to deal with a difficult situation. If you are being attacked or abused, then aggressively fighting back may well be an appropriate thing to do.

 

Assertive Communication Skills

Assertive Communication Skills

Assertive Communication Skills Overview

The term 'assertiveness' is limiting but for instance, you should be assertive rather than aggressive, as if assertiveness is the only way to deal with a difficult situation. If you are being attacked or abused, then aggressively fighting back may well be an appropriate thing to do.

  • A lot of people just don't like the idea of having to tell people they can't do something. Or they feel obligated when a colleague asks a favour; or feel pressurised when someone senior to them needs something done.

  • There are even some work places where saying no is definitely frowned upon; and is a disciplinary offence.

  • There are times when saying the 'no is a necessity. But in our experience, there is so much anxiety around the possible consequences of using it, that people don't say anything at all, or agree to things they'd rather not, or get landed with work that isn't theirs and so on.

  • That can't be good for anyone, especially the person who finds themselves staying late at the end of the day to get their own work done after they've finished everyone else's.

Assertive Communication single choice question

  • 0 = Almost always 1 = Usually 2 = Sometimes 3 = Seldom 4 = Rarely or never 1. Do you ignore it when someone pushes in front of you in line?________________ 2. Do you raise your voice when you’re trying to make a point in a conversation? ___________ 3. Do you find it difficult to accept compliments from your boss? __________ 4. Do people think you have a temper?_________________ 5. Do you find it difficult to ask a friend to do you a favor?_______________ 6. When someone criticizes you, do you find something about him to criticize?____________ 7. Do you keep your opinions to yourself when talking to people whom you do not know very well?__________ 8. Are people afraid of you?______________ 9. If you are angry with someone, is it difficult for you to tell her?_____________ 10. Are you sarcastic with people?______________ 11. Do you find it difficult to refuse people’s requests?_______________ 12. Do you think up smart remarks and quick comebacks to put other people down or on the defensive? __________ 13. Do you let other people make decisions about where to go and what to do?___________ 14. If someone disagrees with you, do you strongly dispute his viewpoint? ________ 15. Do you tend to drag out apologies? ___________ 16. Are you pretty sure you are right? ____________ 17. Is it hard for you to express your negative feelings to others?___________ 18. Do you tend to be judgmental? _____________
  • Put your answer option here

Instructions:
Using the following scale, score yourself on how you usually react to a particular situation, or your usual attitude.

0 = Almost always
1 = Usually
2 = Sometimes
3 = Seldom
4 = Rarely or never

Assertiveness  statement question

  • Creating a communication free environment; Those who find being assertive difficult often assume that everyone else finds it easy. They don't. We all have a tendency to think others are different. Applying assertion tips and techniques can seem as difficult as eating green vegetables. It takes discipline, but the rewards you'll receive are worth it. Assertiveness affects many areas of life. Assertive people tend to have fewer conflicts in their dealings with others, which translates into much less stress in their lives. They get their needs met (which also means less stressing over unmet needs), and help others get their needs met, too. Having stronger, more supportive relationships virtually guarantees that, in a bind, they have people they can count on, which also helps with stress management, and even leads to a healthier body.
  • Those who find being assertive difficult often assume that everyone else finds it easy. The reality is that most people can feel anxious or wrong footed in some situations. I find it fascinating that when you talk to someone who appears supremely confident the reality is often very different