#Social Play: Field Trip Edition

Hi there! Welcome to Social Play Field Trip Edition (FTE)

All emotions and feelings are welcomed, whats important is how we act on them.  

In this course you will learn how we will work together to have fun. We need to follow our team rules, we will always go back to them so make sure you read them carefully.  You will also learn about the mood meter, taking a moment and how to resolve conflicts. 

Good luck with the course!

 

Team Rules

Why Rules matter

Rules matter

Rules keep us safe 

Rules let us play fairly

Rules ensure we respect each other.   

Rules allow us to have fun without us getting hurt. 

Our Team rules

Team Rules

We want to feel: 

Supported, appreciated, respected, 

In order to feel these we will: 

make decision together, listen before reacting, Work together, Be mindful of our feelings and emotions. 

We will prevent and manage conflicts by: 

Problem solving, resolve by talking it out, take a moment to reflect on our choices.


Quiz

Why are rules important? 

  • Rules keep us safe, Rules let us play fairly
  • Rules are to ensure one person always wins, Rules make sure we are unfair
  • Rules are just words,

Emotions

What are Feelings?

Mood Meter (Mood meter app)

Feelings are a combination of your energy level and pleasantness level. To understand your energy level, you can ask yourself "Do I feel like running?" or "do I feel like sitting?" 

Pleasantness has to do with feeling good or a little uneasy. To understand your level of pleasantness, you can ask yourself "Does my body feel comfortable?" or does my body feel uncomfortable?"

All feelings are welcomed, what matters most is how you act and the decisions you make while you feel these feelings. 

Danger zones of feelings

There are Dangers zones we need to be aware of! 

When we are too high in the yellow, we can be extremely silly which can cause you to get into trouble. 

Picture this; You are at your school carnival event and there are many activities around you. You and your friend are super excited. Instead of walking to the activities, you decide to run and you start bumping into others. You don't recognize how you are hurting others and you don't stop to take a moment to cool down. 

As a result of not regulating your excitement, you now get in trouble and lose out on the fun day.


When we are too high in the red, you are feeling angry and you might choose to be revengeful.

Picture this; You and a friend are playing a game of soccer. You feel your friend is being aggressive and you choose to get aggressive back. The result is that you both start to fight with each other. 

As a result, a teacher comes and sends you to the office. Now both of you lose out on playing soccer.


These are the danger zones of high levels of energy without self-regulating your feelings. You are allowed to feel these feelings, but your actions will determine your consequence.  

Quiz

How can Jim get out of the danger zone? 

Jim and his friend are playing a game. Jim sees his friend cheating. Jim at first chooses to ignore. 

Jim's friend keeps on cheating. Jim starts to feel unpleasant and high energy.  

Which color zone is Jim in and What should be his next action? 

  • Jim is in yellow zone and he should give his friend a high five
  • Jim is in the red zone and he should yell at his friend
  • Jim is in the red zone and he should tell his friend to stop cheating or he won't play anymore
  • Jim is in the blue zone and he should walk away.

Taking a moment

What does taking a moment mean?

When you sense a feeling of losing control of your actions. It's best to stop and take a moment.

Now, bring the attention to how you are feeling. Label it using energy level (high or low) and pleasantness level (unpleasant or pleasant).  Next you use self-regulation. 

Self-Regulating Options

Self-Regulating

You are allowed to feel all feelings, but how do you get in control? 

Self-regulating is about finding strategies to help you be in control of your feelings. 

Look at the wheel and think of times you have used these strategies. You can use these strategies to help you handle conflict and your feelings.

If you know some strategies of your own, they are welcomed :). Show us when we meet. 

If the problem ever gets too big and these options do not work, you must go tell an adult and they will help you. 

How to deal with conflicts

what is conflict

Conflict is: 

A disagreement between you and someone else. They are normal. How they get solved is what matters.

Conflicts can end in a win/win, win/lose, or lose/lose. 

Conflict isn't about winning, it is about respecting each other's feelings and coming to an agreement. This sometimes involves both 

Example; Jim and Tim want to practice dribbling with the basket ball but there is only one ball. This leads into a conflict because both children want to use the basketball at the same time.

Win/win; Jim and Tim agree to share the ball  and take turns every 5 minutes. 

Win/lose, Jim decides to yell at Tim and goes to play  something else. While Tim gets to practice dribbling the ball.

Lose/lose, Jim and Tim push each other and the adult removes the ball from both boys. 

What happens when we don't solve conflicts

The Zax by Dr.Suss

Watch what happens when these Zax do not solve their conflict. 

How did the Zax resolve their conflicts? 

Win/Win: The Zax going North and the Zax going South stepped aside and both Zax's continued walking their paths.

Win/Lose: The Zax going South continued his path towards the South and the Zax going North had to change his path to the West path.

Lose/Lose: The Zax going South didn't budge and the Zax going North didn't move an inch. Both Zax's missed out of their journey.

How would you solve this conflict by making it a win/win solution?

How to deal with conflicts

There are 5 simple steps

1) Be Calm: 

Nothing will be solved if you are still feeling high energy and/or unpleasant. 

2) Listen to each person's side of the story

Everyone has their own point of view of the situation. Each view is important. 

3) Express feelings using "Ï" messages

Each person is to express their feelings. You attack the problem not the person. 

Example, You need to say "I don't like playing with someone who cheats". 

4) Explore solutions

After both have agreed on what they both did wrong, we can explore how to make sure this type of conflict is dealt with. 

Brainstorm ideas of solutions. 

Example, " I need you to stop cheating so we can both have fun". 

5) Put a solution in place

In the example, we have asked that cheating doesn't happen. If it happens again, a solution might be to play a different game.   


Quiz

How can a Conflict end? 

  • win/win
  • win/lose
  • lose/lose
  • all of the above

Summary

Summary

Lets never forget to have fun while we play! Bringing out the best version of yourself is what we want to see! When you are learning how to self-regulate your emotions and have control of your actions, you will be able to deal with your conflicts and successfully have fun while playing games. Remember our group rules. 

Feelings 

Pleasantness + Energy = your mood level.


With us you will learn how to label those feelings. 



Taking a moment

Remember that it all starts with sensing your mood. 

Then it is all about which action you will take to either self-regulate or resolve the conflict. 

Conflicts 

most of the time Conflicts can be solved and together we will ensure we build friendships and not enemies. 


Remember that its about having Fun

Additional Information

References

References 

Backatt, M.A, Caruso, D.R, Stern. R.S. (2013) Emotionally intelligent schools: Ruler method. www.ruler.yale.edu

Bronson, M.B. 2000. Self-Regulation in Early Childhood: Nature and Nur-ture. New York: Guilford.

CASEL (2013). CASEL — Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning: What is Social Emotional Learning. retrieved from: http://www.casel.org .

Community for Children. (2015). Retrieved from: http://www.cfchildren.org/second-step/social-emotional-learning/early-learning-self-regulation-skills


Image References

Clipart (2011). Cipy frame. Retrieved from:

http://www.cliparthut.com/tool-box-clip-art-clipart-6UiO6k.html

Funtastic Early Childhood Ideas facebook post(2011) Problem Solving Wheel

 https://www.facebook.com/funtasticEC

Video conflict : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZmZzGxGpSs 

Mood meter image retrieved from:

http://seattleschools.org/academics/curriculum/ruler/mood_meter/