Ground Zero

•How you Connect to Others, God and Your Circumstances

•Capturing your thoughts

•Renewing your mind

•Identity in Christ

•Accountability

Week One Ground Zero Overview

The Key

Scriptures: This week's Word

Romans 12:2; 2 Corinthians 10:5; Gen 2:18

Idea:

When God created the world and every living thing, He said it was good. Even though Adam walked with God daily, Adam was lonely.  Acknowledging that Adam did not need to be alone God created Eve to be in a relationship with Adam.  As time passed, Eve encountered the devil, who tempted her to know more about life and therefore be more like God.  Because she yielded to the temptation along with her husband, Adam, sin came into the world.  Since that time, we have lived in a fallen world where circumstances, the temptations of life, old thoughts, hurts and destructive behaviors prevent us from living the life God desires for us.  We do not see ourselves as the new creation we became when we accepted Christ as our personal savior, but as a tarnished, perhaps unworthy soul struggling to get through each day. 

As your journey toward living as a conqueror begins this week, remember that healing and restoration is a process.  Although the truth is that you are already free, permanent changes in the way you think, the way you react to life and how you apply what God promises you requires time and consistent effort on your part.  The purpose of this week's lesson is to introduce you to the format of the weekly lessons for the next four weeks; explain the purpose of each section of the lesson and finally, to provide an opportunity to practice the tools that we introduce in Ground Zero.  Each lesson in the Workbook consists of  five sections: 

Learn section,

Commit section,

Identify section,

Discuss section and

Practice section.

As you begin your journey, take time this week to read and complete the activities in this week’s lesson.  It is important that you complete all the sections for Week 1 before coming to the first-class session next week.  However, take your time and be patient with yourself.  Remember this is a process.

Learn: Daily Application of the Word:

Purpose

The purpose of the activities in the Learn section of Living as Conquerors is to Learn how to renew your mind and apply God's Word to your daily activities. Renewing your mind means hearing God’s Word and realizing the impact of hearing His Word on your connections with others, God and your circumstances.

  1. Review The Key section for the week. Each lesson begins with a Key Idea which provides a summary of the week's lesson and the scripture references for the week.  It is important to review this section in order to understand what the rest of the week's activities will address.
  2. Read aloud the How God Connects to You and The Conqueror’s Prayer of Freedom.  These are located beginning on page 97, (p. 129 in Leader’s Guide) and they are a critical part of your healing process.  The How God Connects to You are divided into ten sections with five scriptures in each section.  The purpose of reading these Scriptures aloud every day is to help you replace your collection of negative thoughts with truth from God's Word.  This simple process helps you renew your mind so that you recognize the truth instead of what the world might tell you about the circumstances in your life.  Reading them aloud accomplishes two goals: 1) You hear the Word and 2) You let the Devil know that you are not listening to him.  The Conqueror's Prayer of Freedom is provided to allow you to recognize and internalize God's plan for restoration and recovery.  Reading the prayer every day helps you realize how important every minute of our day is and how much God desires to heal our broken lives. 
  3. Complete the daily lesson as instructed. The last part of the Learn section will include specific assignments that provide insight into God’s Word and application to your life. The purpose of this activity is to put the truth from God's Word in your mind each morning and throughout the day instead of reviewing the tasks you have for the day.  However, reading the Scripture is only part of the process of renewing your mind.  The second and most vital part of this activity is applying the scripture to your daily life.  In Ground Zero this is accomplished by the table that allows you to list how reading the scripture in the morning, impacted your reactions to circumstances you encountered during the day.  This activity is a tool to learn what renewing your mind means and how it can change your life in very simple ways. After week one, the Learn activity focus on three to four Connection Styles each week.  This activity allows you to turn your eyes toward the truth rather than the things of the world which help you understand God’s character.

Instructions and Learn Activities

Instructions

It is important for you to complete all the activities in order to change the way you think about and react to the stresses of your life. 

This week follow the instructions below to begin your journey to freedom and understanding God’s Character.

  1. Review the Key Idea for Week One
  2. Read aloud the How God Connects to You and The Conqueror’s Prayer
  3. Read the scriptures listed below aloud each day.
  4. At the end of the end of the day answer the questions for each day.

Scriptures for the Week

Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Romans 12:2

We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,

2 Cor. 10:5

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for[a] him.”

Gen. 2:18

Scriptures for the Week

Scriptures for the Week

Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Romans 12:2

We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,

2 Cor. 10:5

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for[a] him.”

Gen. 2:18

Day One: When did you read the scripture(s)?

Day One: How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

Day One: How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

Day One: How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Day Three: When did you read the scripture(s)?

Day Three: How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

Day Three: How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

Day Three: How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Day Four: When did you read the scripture(s)?

Day Four: How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

Day Four: How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

Day Four: How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Day Five: When did you read the scripture(s)?

Day Five: How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

Day Five: How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

Day Five: How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Day Six: When did you read the scripture(s)?

Day Six: How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

Day Six: How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

Day Six: How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Commit: Capturing your Thoughts

Capturing Your Thoughts

This section will be one of the most valuable tools in your journey. The LAC journal teaches you how to capture the thoughts that tear you down and keep you chained. The structured journal requires numerous entries. Some individuals discover that completing the journal is the most difficult section to complete regularly, but without it, achieving success is difficult.  The journal is most useful if you complete it as the “event” is occurring.  Most of the things that keep you trapped in negative behavior begin with a single thought.  The daily journal provides a simple way for you to stop negative thoughts quickly and easily.  While providing minute details of an event often seems natural and essential, the detail often derails you from the core issue.  Rambling, a common term for providing too much information, often keeps you stuck in the lies, negative thoughts and ultimately negative behavior.  The LAC journal helps you capture the core thoughts and feelings, identify the type of connection you need and replace negative thoughts or unbridled emotion with Scripture.

Connection Styles: What are they?

Before we discuss the LAC Journal, you should understand what a Connection Style is and what your top Connection Styles are.  From the beginning of time, connections have been a vital part of Human development.  God created man and woman so He could connect with us. Understanding how we connect is vital to understanding our relationships with others. If we don’t understand how someone connects, communication can be confusing, frustrating or impossible. 

The Connection Style Assessment provides insight about how you connect to others, circumstances and God. 

  • The assessment evaluates your responses to questions about 10 Connections Styles.   The results provide insight into how you connect. 
  • The results describe the Strengths, the Struggles and the Expectations for each Connections Style listed in your results.
  • Your results will vary over time depending upon what you experience in life.  Most individuals will have multiple connection styles, but one may be dominant.

Getting your needs met is the motivating force behind most of what you do or think every day.  However, if you do not understand what kind of connections you need or how to ask for them, you are vulnerable to using unhealthy ways of connecting ways such as addictive behaviors, beginning to believe no one understands you, which often results in depression.  Fearing your needs will not be met can also lead to anxiety, or cause you to push others away when they try to meet a need because you feel unworthy. 

The next activity begins the process of recognizing your Connection Style, which is the foundation for developing healthy relationships and living as a conqueror.

Complete the assessment that you received via email when you registered for the class and be prepared to share your top three Connection Styles with your group next week.


Connection Styles of Accountability Team


The Connection Style Assessment tool helped you identify your top three Connection Styles. The information will help you understand the type of connection you need from others and then learn to ask for it. Each style has five scripture references. Knowing your Connection Styles and the scripture references associated with them also helps you to realize God how connects with you. Take time to review the Scripture references in the How God Connects with Me for the top three Connection Styles you identified.  p. 97. (p. 129 in Leader’s Guide)

Record the top three Connection Styles of your Accountability Team members below.

My Top 3 Connection Styles

Top 3 Connection Styles Acct 1

Top 3 Connection Styles Acct 2

Top 3 Connection Styles Acct 3

The LAC Journal: Instructions

Purpose

Now that you know what Connection Styles are, the next step is learning how to complete the LAC Journal. 

The daily journal provides an easy way for you to stop the negative thought process quickly and easily.  The role of the journal is to help you move forward by enabling you to identify these parts of daily events. The Journal is also a way that you learn to listen to God instead of Satan. 

What Happened

The first section of the Journal is labeled “What Happened?”  In order to get to the truth, you first have to understand what the initial trigger was.  Identifying the event allows you to jumpstart your rational mind and begins the process of capturing your initial thoughts and emotional response.  Identifying “What Happened” also stops you from rambling and spiraling into other events that created the same emotional response.

What Did I Think and Feel?

You have identified the trigger; now it is time to start identifying thoughts and feelings.  In this step, you will describe what the event or trigger caused you to think and feel. Keep it brief. Use two or three feeling words, or one to two sentences about your thoughts. 

What kind of Connection Do I need?

In this step, you will identify the type of connection you need in this circumstance. We all have unique ways of connecting to others, to your circumstances and to God. These are our connection styles. They indicate not only how we might respond to life’s circumstances, but also the kind of connections that will empower us to move forward, find peace and make Christ-centered choices.

Utilize the connection style indicators in the back of this book to pinpoint where your need lies.

The Truth--What does the Word Say?

In this final step, you will write out a scripture corresponding to the connection style from step 3 (You can find these in the back of the book). Tip: Do not just write the scripture down but read it aloud. 

Note: It is important to complete all the sections each time that you journal to capture your thought and replace it with the Truth. 

Week Summary of Journals: 

Pay attention to any patterns you see in the events or the Connection Styles that recur in your journals. At the end of each week complete the Weekly Summary of Journals to begin to see patterns in your journals. 

Journal Example


Here are some journal examples, designed to illustrate how each section is used and how to keep your journals brief.

Brief Example

What Happened?

I yelled at my child after she had been obstinate all day.

What Did You Think/Feel?

Angry, disappointed, “I am a horrible mother.”

What kind of connection do I need?

Planner

What does the Word Say?

Christ give me the strength to face anything Phil. 4:13

Rambling Example

What Happened?

My daughter started out the day by slapping me in the face, and then proceeded to throw two or three tantrums whenever I asked her to clean up a mess or to do anything.  She yelled at her little brother and me all morning and simply would not listen to me no matter what I tried to do.  Finally, I hit my breaking point and screamed at her to cut it out. This upset her terribly.

What Did You Think/Feel?

I was frustrated and angry all day. She just drove me crazy and then when I finally screamed at her I saw the look on her face and felt horribly guilty, and felt like I was just a horrible mother.

What kind of connection do I need?

Planner

What does the Word Say?

Christ give me the strength to face anything Phil. 4:13

Activity 1: Practice Journals

Instructions

Read each scenario. Then use the  Taking Captives Journal included with your Welcome Packet to complete a journal for each scenario.  This exercise will help you understand and practice journaling for events that occur in your life. You will share your answers with your group next week.

Scenario One

You put a pot of stew on the stove and leave the room to do some other task.  When you return, the pot is boiling over, and you have an enormous mess!  In your mind, you hear, “You are so stupid.  What made you think you could cook a homemade stew?  You will never get it right.”

Scenario Two

You are late for work and realize that you have a flat tire. You hear, “Why did you let this happen God?  I’ll be in trouble for being late and will probably be fired.  I should’ve known things would go bad again.”

Scenario Three

You are in charge of a project at work, and someone tells you they are taking over.  You hear, “What is wrong with me?  Who do they think they are to do this to me?  Nothing ever goes right for me.”

Scenario Four

You were just laid off from work after signing a new lease on a very expensive apartment. You hear “Why do you hate me, God?  See, I knew it was too good to be true.  I won’t ever have anything good in my life.”

Scenario Five 

Your child has been yelling and screaming at you all day. You are at the end of your rope and resort to screaming back at him/her. He/she is reduced to tears and won’t speak to you.  You think, “I am such a horrible mother. How could I yell at her like that? I should have more patience. It’s all my fault she acts like this anyway.”

Scenario Six

You miss an appointment with a friend for lunch.  You hear, “What kind of friend are you?  She will never want to speak to you again.”

Activity 2- More Practice

Instructions

Read each of the following stories and complete a journal entry for each.  Use The Taking Captives Journal that you received with your Welcome Packet to record your responses to the scenarios.  Your goal is to keep it brief. After completing each of the journals, then fill in the weekly summary based on the journals you created.

Scenario One

This morning my husband, Fred, decided that he wanted to quit his job. He’s had the job forever; it’s a good job, with good insurance. The only reason he wants to quit is that he doesn’t like his new boss.  And you know, I can understand that he doesn’t like him - the guy is a jerk.  At the Christmas party last month, he spent the whole evening ragging on Fred about something that had happened that day.  I don’t remember what it was, though...

Scenario Two

This morning I got so upset with my sister because she borrowed my car and didn’t refill the tank.  You see, you have to understand the story here; she is always taking things of mine without asking, or taking them and destroying them.  From the time we were little she has done this.  Once, she even took $200 out of my wallet.  She says she was going to pay me back, but I doubt that.  I don’t know why I am so angry at her; it completely ruins my day when she does stuff like this.  She is so frustrating and irresponsible.

Scenario Three

Here is what happened, I wasn’t able to go to church today…I got up and put in a load of laundry, so I would have some clean clothes to wear.  I thought I turned on the washer, but I guess I forgot.  So then, I went to make some breakfast for the kids, but they didn’t really want anything. When we finally settled on oatmeal, they got it all over their church clothes, and I had to bathe them and change them.  It was such a mess.  Then I went to the washer, discovered it hadn’t run yet, and I about pulled my hair out!  I decided to wear what I wore last week because we had ten minutes to get out the door or we would be late.  The next thing I know, Jenny is throwing up all over me!  I guess that oatmeal didn’t sit too well.  I couldn’t believe it, how could so many things go wrong in one morning?  I am so upset I couldn’t go to church today…I was really looking forward to it.

Scenario Four

I had a great Mother’s Day! It started out with breakfast in bed.  It wasn’t a perfect breakfast, but still, sweet and perfectly wonderful.  Then each of my kids made me a great card telling me what an awesome Mom I am.  It doesn’t get much better than that.  We spent a quiet day at home together as a family. I didn’t have to do any dishes, wash any faces, or change any diapers.  That evening, Fred took me out for dinner and a movie.  He was romantic and loving.  He made me feel so special.  I can’t remember having such a good time in a long while!

Identify: Taking a Closer Look

Instructions

Throughout the Living as Conquerors program, the Identify section of the homework will focus on a personal application of the topic covered each week.  In Ground Zero, these exercises will help you begin to identify how you connect with others, your circumstances and with God. Finally, these exercises help you better understand each of the Connection Styles and how they manifest in your life. Each week, a table describes the Strengths, struggles and expectations of three to four Connections Styles as well as the scriptures that show how God connects through each Connection Style.  A second table provides space for you to record how that relational need was met each during the week. 

Activity

Let Me Tell You What I Need

Let’s look at an example of the identify homework. Please look over the instructions for each table.

Each day this week review the definition, scriptures, and statements listed below. 

Connection Style

Provider-Strengths

  1. Connects with others through providing life’s necessities
  2. Resourceful
  3. Willing to accept help from others
  4. Thrive on helping others succeed.

The Provider’s Struggles  

Circumstance and experience can make the provider vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  • Constant poor money management even when income is sufficient,
  • Compulsive spending on non-essentials when they are stressed
  • Excessively providing for others in need when they cannot afford to do so.
  •  Working to the detriment of a healthy life balance to provide more

The Provider’s Expectations (Needs)

The Provider expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  • Food, clothing, and shelter always a priority,
  • Full pantry,
  • A steady source of income,
  • A place to live, Resources to provide for the family

.

Connection with God

Connection with God

The provider’s connection with God is typically rooted on His provision for his children. The provider may seek God more intently during times of stress, believing God will provide.

How God Connects to You

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.   Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.                                      Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...  Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs                                                                        Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.                                                            Phil.4:19

What I Did This Week

Each day this week, review the information recorded in Let Me Tell You What I Need. Record you experienced connections from a provider, provided for someone or experienced God as a provider.  Be honest. Try to use the statements and scripture above to help you.  Use your journal to record your reactions and any temptations that would keep you trapped in your old patterns.   Remember it is important to be able to recognize how you are connecting to God, others and your circumstances.

Day One

Day Two

Day Three

Day Four

Day Five

Day Six

Discuss: Sharing with One Other Person

Accountability Work

You complete this part of the lesson with your accountability team that the facilitators assign. It is essential that accountability team members contact each other at least once between each weekly meeting. Your accountability team consists of three to five women selected by the facilitators after much prayer. The contact with your Accountability Teams provides support and encouragement and allows you to practice what you learn each week. For many, meeting with the accountability team is the most difficult part of Living as Conquerors.  However, the time spent with your team is perhaps the most critical part of your journey.  The purpose of Ground Zero is to understand the strengths, struggles and expectations for each Connection Style and learn how to connect in healthy ways.  Establish relationships with your team members and holding each other accountable, helps every member of the team.  Time spent with your Accountability Team between weekly meetings helps you maintain your focus.  The time is intended to build healthy relationships, not a time to discuss others in the group or to ramble.  It is important to set boundaries with your team members at the beginning of each meeting. In addition, this week you are given the opportunity to write your goals for Ground Zero. 

Each week, you will meet with your assigned accountability team during the last 30 minutes of the weekly sessions.  During this time, you can do a journal together and pray for the prayer requests on your list. The questions in the Discuss section helps you focus on practicing what you learn about the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Connections Styles covered each week.  Also, review and complete your personal goals for Ground Zero on page 95. (p. 127 in Leader’s Guide).

Come prepared to share your top three Connection Styles with your Accountability Team next week.

You committed time and energy to coming to Living as Conquerors. As part of the process, it is important for each of you to understand the guidelines of the program and that you agree to them.    After reviewing The Commitment to the Journey, please sign it, remove it from the workbook, and give it to your facilitator next week.  If you have any questions, you can ask your facilitator next week.

Practice: Let Me Tell You about the New Me

Paying it Forward

In this section, you are asked to share what you are learning with someone who is not participating in Living as Conquerors.  It is important to begin to branch outside of the team in small ways so that you can learn to have healthy relationships not only with those inside your team but with the people.  Each week throughout Living as Conquerors the Practice Section will provide an opportunity for you to practice the skills you are learning with those who you encounter every day.

To begin that process complete the table below and refer to it often as you continue on your journey.

Who is there in your life with whom you would like to share your experience in Living as Conquerors?  Make a list of these individuals and pray for opportunities to share your victories with them. You may add people to this list throughout our study together.

Person 1

Name

Why Do Want to Share with Them?

Phone or Email

Person 2

Name

Why Do Want to Share with Them?

Phone or Email

Week 2: Provider, Guardian, and Planner

Preparing to Stand Firm-The Key

Scriptures: This week's Word

Luke 12:22, Luke 12:34, Luke 12:31, Luke 12:30, Philippians 4:19

John 16:33, Romans 8:31-39, I John 5:18, 2Timothy 1:7, Hebrews 13:5,6

Ephesians 4:15,16; Philippians 4:13, Philippians 1:6, Psalms 136:1, Hebrews 13:8

Idea:  This week’s focus Provider, Guardian, and Planner

Provider:

Throughout the Living as Conquerors program, you will see how the Israelites, whom God delivered out of Egypt, provide many illustrations for the work you will do.  This week as you consider the Planner as a connection style, the Israelites set the stage for showing us how God is our provider.  He gave them everything they needed during their journey through the wilderness.  It was not always what they wanted, and they complained all the time.  As you make your journey to freedom, it is important for you to remember that God’s provision does not always come in ways we expect or desire.

Guardian:

The news constantly bombards us with threats of terrorist attacks, disease alerts, natural disasters, and the news of broken relationships.  It seems that nothing is secure in the world.  Divorce is at an all time high, and the media promotes fear in movies, television and social media.  It is no surprise that anxiety is the constant companion for many.  The world offers relief through medication, isolation, sex, drugs and risk taking. 

How do we ever feel safe?  Where do we turn when it seems the world is caving in around us?

This week you will spend time renewing your mind with five scripture passages that show you how God is your Guardian.  There is hope for the future because God is in the driver’s seat and He will finish what He began. 

Planner

When Jesus was born, He did not follow the plan that most religious leaders of the day had planned.  His life did not reflect the way they wanted to see the Messiah and their expectation to set them free.  The result was chaos, deception, betrayal and the ultimate death of our Savior.  However, Jesus followed the plan that God had set for Him.  He never changed the course of His life despite overwhelming obstacles that the world placed before Him.  He was consistent to the end.  He promised us and demonstrated God's unfailing love for us.  We simply cannot be separated from God's love and affection. 

This week, as you read scriptures and look at statements about the Planner, remember that our God is bigger that any change in plan.  He can be your strength in the midst of Chaos.  No matter what the world throws your way, God can catch it, take it in His powerful arms and calm the storm that change and unexpected events create in our lives.  It is good to plan sometimes, but most importantly it is essential for each of us to know the eternal plan that never changes.

It takes time to replace old beliefs and thoughts with new ones.  Give yourself time to learn new patterns.  It also takes practice.  Renew your mind every day.  Continue to capture your thoughts when a negative thought comes into your mind.  Don’t allow the lies of the Devil to rob your peace.

Key Declaration:

  1. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)
  2. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. (Romans 7:18)

1. Does turning control of your life over to God mean you can automatically do anything you want?

2. Does Romans 7:18 mean that we can never be anything but sinful?

Learn: Daily Application of the Word:

Instructions

  1. Review The Key section for Week Two
  2. Read aloud The Conqueror’s Prayer
  3. Read the scriptures listed below aloud each day
  4. At the end of the end of the day answer the questions listed below the Scriptures.

Scriptures for the Week

God is my provider because the Word says…

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.

Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.

Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...

Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs.

Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.

Phil.4:19

God is my Guardian because the Word says…

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

John 16:33

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love.

Rom. 8:31,39

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I John 5:18,20

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control.

2 Tim. 1:7

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Heb. 13:5,6

God is my planner because the Word says…

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Eph. 4:15,16

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.

Phil. 4:13

God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete.

Phil. 1:6

God's love never fails.

Psa.136:1

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Heb. 13:8

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my provider because the Word says…

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.

Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.

Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...

Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs.

Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.

Phil.4:19

God is my Guardian because the Word says…

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

John 16:33

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love.

Rom. 8:31,39

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I John 5:18,20

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control.

2 Tim. 1:7

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Heb. 13:5,6

God is my planner because the Word says…

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Eph. 4:15,16

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.

Phil. 4:13

God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete.

Phil. 1:6

God's love never fails.

Psa.136:1

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my provider because the Word says…

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.

Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.

Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...

Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs.

Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.

Phil.4:19

God is my Guardian because the Word says…

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

John 16:33

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love.

Rom. 8:31,39

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I John 5:18,20

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control.

2 Tim. 1:7

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Heb. 13:5,6

God is my planner because the Word says…

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Eph. 4:15,16

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.

Phil. 4:13

God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete.

Phil. 1:6

God's love never fails.

Psa.136:1

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.


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When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my provider because the Word says…

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.

Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.

Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...

Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs.

Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.

Phil.4:19

God is my Guardian because the Word says…

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

John 16:33

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love.

Rom. 8:31,39

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I John 5:18,20

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control.

2 Tim. 1:7

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Heb. 13:5,6

God is my planner because the Word says…

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Eph. 4:15,16

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.

Phil. 4:13

God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete.

Phil. 1:6

God's love never fails.

Psa.136:1

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my provider because the Word says…

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.

Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.

Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...

Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs.

Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.

Phil.4:19

God is my Guardian because the Word says…

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

John 16:33

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love.

Rom. 8:31,39

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I John 5:18,20

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control.

2 Tim. 1:7

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Heb. 13:5,6

God is my planner because the Word says…

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Eph. 4:15,16

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.

Phil. 4:13

God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete.

Phil. 1:6

God's love never fails.

Psa.136:1

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my provider because the Word says…

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.

Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.

Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...

Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs.

Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.

Phil.4:19

God is my Guardian because the Word says…

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

John 16:33

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love.

Rom. 8:31,39

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I John 5:18,20

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control.

2 Tim. 1:7

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Heb. 13:5,6

God is my planner because the Word says…

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Eph. 4:15,16

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.

Phil. 4:13

God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete.

Phil. 1:6

God's love never fails.

Psa.136:1

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.


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How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Commit: Capturing your Thoughts

Instructions

Use the  Taking Captives Journal that was included in your Welcome Packet record journals this week. At the end of the week complete the Weekly Summary of Journals. Be prepared to share one or two journals with your accountability group. 

Identify: Taking a Closer Look

Let Me Tell You What I Need

This week we focused on the Provider, the Guardian, and the Planner.  Each morning this week review the Strengths, Struggles, and Expectations of each style to understand how individuals connect with others, with their circumstances, and with God for each connection style.

Provider

Provider-Strengths

  1. Connects with others through providing life’s necessities
  2. Resourceful
  3. Willing to accept help from others
  4.  Thrive on helping others succeed.

The Provider’s Struggles

Circumstance and experience can make the provider vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  1. Constant poor money management even when income is sufficient,
  2. Compulsive spending on non-essentials when they are stressed
  3. Excessively providing for others in need when they cannot afford to do so.
  4.  Working to the detriment of a healthy life balance to provide more

The Provider’s Expectations (Needs)

The Provider expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  1. Food, clothing, and shelter always a priority,
  2. Full pantry,
  3. A steady source of income,
  4. A place to live, Resources to provide for the family

Connection with God

The provider’s connection with God is typically rooted on His provision for his children. The provider may seek God more intently during times of stress, believing God will provide.

How God Connects to You

I don't need to worry about life, having something to eat or wear.         Luke 12:22

My heart will always be where my treasure is.                                            Luke 12:34

I will put God's work first, and these things will be mine as well...         Luke 12:31

My Father knows my needs                                                                               Luke 12:30

God will take care of all my needs.                                                                   Phil.4:19

Guardian

Guardian-Strengths

Connect with others by ensuring those they care about remaining safe.

  • Trust and loyalty are essential
  • content with a small group of close trusted friends.
  • Thrives when their environment is secure.

The Guardian’s Struggles

Circumstance and experience can make the Guardian vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  1. Unable to focus on routine tasks or connect to anyone until the perceived threats are eliminated.
  2. Avoiding others rather than confronting issues out of fear.
  3. Experiencing a primal fear for the emotional, physical, or spiritual safety of their loved ones and themselves.
  4. Avoiding the close friendships to protect themselves from emotional pain or remain in destructive relationships because that is what feels “normal.”

The Guardian’s Expectations (Needs)

The Guardian expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  1. prepared for emergencies,
  2. awareness of potential risks to safety,
  3. safe relationships,
  4. needs to know their family is safe.

Connection with God

The Guardian sees God as the ultimate Guardian of His people. The Guardian trusts God to protect him and his family, and he petitions God on behalf of his family regularly.

How God Connects to You

I can have peace because of Jesus Christ. While I am in the world, I will have to suffer, but Christ has defeated the world.

If God is on my side, who can be against me? Nothing in all creation can separate me from God's love. ->

God's own Son protects me, and the devil cannot harm me. I now belong to the true God who gives eternal life

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love, and self-control.

The Lord has promised that he will not leave me or desert me. Why should I be afraid of what people can do to me?

Scripture Reference


John 16:33


Rom. 8:31,39


I John 5:18,20


2 Tim. 1:7


Heb. 13:5,6


Planner

Planner-Strengths

Planners connect through creating predictability and consistency with others.

  • Creating routines, organizing and anticipating the reactions of others. 
  • Helping others create a better environment
  • assessing whether others will respond in a predictable manner.
  •   Thrives in situations where routines and others are consistent.

The Planner’s Struggles

Circumstance and experience can make the Planner vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  • Experiencing anxiety, loss of focus or anger when they experience an unexpected change of routine or if someone reacts to them in an uncharacteristic manner. 
  • Sabotaging their sense of peace and wellbeing by creating chaos (i.e. keeping the home/office in disarray, choosing relationships with those who are very inconsistent)
  • Taking control of every situation so that everything always follows the plan, the norm.
  •  Exhibiting obsessive-compulsive behaviors to maintain a stable and predictable environment

The Planner’s Expectations (Needs)

The Planner expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  • Consistency,
  • Organized life,
  • Having a routine,
  • Predictable interactions and events

Connection with God

The Planner relies on God as the unchanging source of strength in their life. The planner views God as the most predictable part of their life.  They connect with God as unchanging and constant which sustains them in times of stress.

How God Connects to You

I will grow in every way and be more like Christ, the head of the body. He holds it together and makes all of its parts work perfectly.

Christ gives me the strength to face anything.


God is the one who began this good work in me, and He won't stop before it is complete

God's love never fails.

Jesus Christ never changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Scripture Reference


Eph. 4:15,16


Phil. 4:13


Phil. 1:6

Psa.136:1

Heb. 13:8


What I Did This Week

Instructions

Each day this week, review the information recorded in Let Me Tell You What I Need. Record you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner connections style. Be honest. Try to use the statements and scripture above to help you.  Use your journal to record your reactions and any temptations that would keep you trapped in your old patterns.  Remember it is important to be able to recognize how you are connecting to God, others and your circumstances.

Day One

Example

A team member gave me $15 to buy gas. (Provider), I asked my friend if she was angry with me for missing our appointment (Guardian)

Record you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner connections style.

Day 2

Example

A team member gave me $15 to buy gas. (Provider), I asked my friend if she was angry with me for missing our appointment (Guardian)

Record how you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner Connections Style

Day 3

Example

A team member gave me $15 to buy gas. (Provider), I asked my friend if she was angry with me for missing our appointment (Guardian)

Record how you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner Connections Style

Day Four

Example

A team member gave me $15 to buy gas. (Provider), I asked my friend if she was angry with me for missing our appointment (Guardian)

Record how you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner Connections Style

Day Five

Example

A team member gave me $15 to buy gas. (Provider), I asked my friend if she was angry with me for missing our appointment (Guardian)

Record how you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner Connections Style

Day 6

Example

A team member gave me $15 to buy gas. (Provider), I asked my friend if she was angry with me for missing our appointment (Guardian)

Record how you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner Connections Style

Discuss: Sharing with One Other Person

Instructions

At least once this week, meet or talk to your accountability team.  During this time you can do a journal together, and pray for the prayer requests on your list.  It is also important that accountability partners connect with each other through the top Connection Style.  Use the questions provided to build your relationship with your Accountability Team.

List Time, Date and type of contact

Think about how your team connected this week. Describe how they attempted to connect using your top connection style. What was your response?

Think about how your team connected this week. Describe how you attempted to connect using their top connection style. What was their response?

What are the boundaries for contact for each person on your team? (i.e. don’t call after 9pm, frequency of contacts)

Practice: Let Me Tell You about the New Me

Think about how you connected with someone close to you. Describe how you attempted to connect using their top connection style. What was their response?

Week 3: Connector, Appreciator, Comforter

Preparing to Stand Firm-The Key

Scriptures: This week's Word

John 15:19, I Cor. 6:19, I Peter 2:9, Eph. 2:13, Luke 15:7, Mat. 10:30, Isaiah 43:4, John 15: 15, Deut. 7:7-8, Romans 8:18, Matt 5:4, 2Cor.1:3-4, John 14:27, Isa. 30:20.

Idea: This Week's Focus: Connector, Appreciator and Comforter

Connector

As the Israelites traveled across the desert, God divided them into tribes.  Every person in those millions that traveled together for 40 years “belonged” to a tribe.  They had a connection to a group.  The tribes bonded and established norms for their group.  They lived together, played together and worshiped together.  Their tribe was part of their identity.   As Christians, we also belong to a family and a body, the family, and body of Christ.  We have been adopted as children of God (Ephesians 1:5).  We are no longer servants…but we are called [Christ’s] friends. 

Everyone wants to be accepted by others.  However, if you have experienced rejection, ridicule or abuse by those you trusted, it may be difficult for you to feel accepted by any group.  This week you are given the opportunity to learn the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Connector and how God is your connector.

Appreciator

When the Israelites left Egypt, they brought things with them that reminded them of their life in Egypt.  They brought things they valued.  During their journey in the desert, most of those "things" were lost, destroyed or just left behind.  They often complained because they did not feel God understood the importance of these things.  They placed their value on the material things they brought with them, things that linked them to captivity, rather than their relationships with each other.  

Today, the world constantly tells us through the media that our possessions or our appearance determine our value, what we look like or what we do.  This week as you read the scriptures each day, you will learn the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Appreciator and how God is your appreciator.  After all, God appreciates us so much that He sent Christ who died that we might have eternal life. 

All of us need people in our lives to show genuine interest in our lives.  Most of us want to provide input before decisions are made that impact our life, and feel that we are significant simply because we are the person that we were created to be.  Christ appreciated all of the disciples, even those that betrayed and denied Him.  Christ took an interest in those that came to hear Him.  He valued them.  He values you.  Allow those truths into your heart this week as you explore the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Appreciator.  After all, you are "God’s workmanship created in Christ for good works, which God prepared beforehand that I should walk in them." Ephesians 2:10.

Comforter

The 23rd Psalm is a favorite memory scripture for Sunday school classes.   The words of this Psalm are a profound illustration of David's trust in the Lord for comfort during difficult times in his life.  The passage also provides comfort to believers today.  David sought God constantly.  The Psalms provide a backdrop for the young king's relationship with God.  He trusted God to be there for him. 

The New Testament passages in this week's lesson provide a brief look at Christ's compassion toward those that are hurting.  He taught the importance of offering comfort to those that mourn and to those in pain.  As you read these powerful scriptures aloud each day, allow the peace of God to comfort you.

Each of us reacts differently to loss or tragedy.  Some of us need words of comfort; some need a hug, and others require solitude and reflection.  This week you have the opportunity to discover the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Comforter and how God is your Comforter.

Key Declaration

  1. I offer my body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God, this is my spiritual act of worship. (Romans 12:1)
  2. I will examine my ways and test them, and return to the Lord. (Lamentations 3:40)

1. What does being a living sacrifice mean?

2. What is scripture asking you to do?

Learn: Daily Application of the Word:

Instructions

  1.  Review The Key section for Week Three.
  2. Read aloud The Conqueror’s Prayer
  3. Read the scriptures listed below aloud each day
  4. At the end of the end of the day answer the questions listed below the Scriptures.

Scriptures for the Week

God is my Connector because the Word says…

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. But I don't belong to the world. Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.

John 15:19

I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.

I Cor.6:19

I am a part of God's chosen and special people.

I Peter 2:9

I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood as a sacrifice and brought me near.

Eph.2:13

God is my appreciator because the Word says…

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Luke 15:7 

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

Mat. 10:30 

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Isaiah 43:4

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

John 15:15

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Deut. 7:7-8

God is my comforter because the Word says…

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:18

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

Matt. 5:4

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.

2 Cor.1:3-4

Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

 John 14:27

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Isa. 30:20

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my Connector because the Word says…

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. But I don't belong to the world. Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.

John 15:19

I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.

I Cor.6:19

I am a part of God's chosen and special people.

I Peter 2:9

I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood as a sacrifice and brought me near.

Eph.2:13

God is my appreciator because the Word says…

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Luke 15:7 

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

Mat. 10:30 

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Isaiah 43:4

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

John 15:15

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Deut. 7:7-8

God is my comforter because the Word says…

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:18

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

Matt. 5:4

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.

2 Cor.1:3-4

Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

 John 14:27

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Isa. 30:20

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my Connector because the Word says…

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. But I don't belong to the world. Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.

John 15:19

I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.

I Cor.6:19

I am a part of God's chosen and special people.

I Peter 2:9

I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood as a sacrifice and brought me near.

Eph.2:13

God is my appreciator because the Word says…

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Luke 15:7 

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

Mat. 10:30 

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Isaiah 43:4

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

John 15:15

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Deut. 7:7-8

God is my comforter because the Word says…

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:18

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

Matt. 5:4

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.

2 Cor.1:3-4

Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

 John 14:27

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Isa. 30:20

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my Connector because the Word says…

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. But I don't belong to the world. Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.

John 15:19

I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.

I Cor.6:19

I am a part of God's chosen and special people.

I Peter 2:9

I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood as a sacrifice and brought me near.

Eph.2:13

God is my appreciator because the Word says…

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Luke 15:7 

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

Mat. 10:30 

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Isaiah 43:4

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

John 15:15

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Deut. 7:7-8

God is my comforter because the Word says…

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:18

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

Matt. 5:4

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.

2 Cor.1:3-4

Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

 John 14:27

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Isa. 30:20

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my Connector because the Word says…

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. But I don't belong to the world. Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.

John 15:19

I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.

I Cor.6:19

I am a part of God's chosen and special people.

I Peter 2:9

I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood as a sacrifice and brought me near.

Eph.2:13

God is my appreciator because the Word says…

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Luke 15:7 

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

Mat. 10:30 

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Isaiah 43:4

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

John 15:15

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Deut. 7:7-8

God is my comforter because the Word says…

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:18

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

Matt. 5:4

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.

2 Cor.1:3-4

Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

 John 14:27

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Isa. 30:20

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my Connector because the Word says…

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. But I don't belong to the world. Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.

John 15:19

I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.

I Cor.6:19

I am a part of God's chosen and special people.

I Peter 2:9

I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood as a sacrifice and brought me near.

Eph.2:13

God is my appreciator because the Word says…

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Luke 15:7 

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

Mat. 10:30 

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Isaiah 43:4

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

John 15:15

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Deut. 7:7-8

God is my comforter because the Word says…

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:18

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

Matt. 5:4

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.

2 Cor.1:3-4

Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

 John 14:27

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Isa. 30:20

When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Commit: Capturing your Thoughts

Instructions

Use the  Taking Captives Journal that was included in your Welcome Packet record journals this week. At the end of the week complete the Weekly Summary of Journals. Be prepared to share one or two journals with your accountability group. 

Identify: Taking a Closer Look

Let Me Tell You What I Need

This week we focused on the Connector, the Appreciator and the Comforter.  Each morning this week review the Strengths, Struggles, and Expectations of each style to understand how individuals connect with others, with their circumstances and with God for each connection style.

Connector

Connector-Strengths

Connectors connect by helping others to belong to something bigger than themselves

  • Thrives in situations where they can work towards a shared vision or goal with others.
  • Quick to spot the lonely, awkward or underdog, and connect them with a group
  • adapt well to the norms of the group, and they help others to do the same.
  • Willing to sacrifice their needs and wants for needs of the group.
  • See and promote the similarities and connections between people strive to create harmony in their environments.

The Connector’s Struggles 

Circumstance and experience can make the Connector vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  • Losing focus and motivation when they lose a group connection, or the connection becomes unstable.
  • Isolating either physically or emotionally for fear of being rejected.
  • Sacrificing core values to fit in or meet the needs of the group
  • Singling out specific people to connect with and overwhelming them with attention and effort
  • Connecting with unhealthy or dangerous groups
  •  Encouraging others to compromise or not stand up for their convictions to keep group harmony.

The Connector’s Expectations (Needs)

The Connector expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  1. Sense of belonging to a group,
  2. Harmony within the group
  3. Cooperation among members of the group

Connection with God

The Connector thrives in the knowledge that God adopted them into His family and that they are a fundamental part of the Church.  This knowledge serves as reassurance and security even when they do not feel connected to other groups or people.

How God Connects to You

If I belonged to the world, its people would love me. 

But I don't belong to the world. 

Christ has chosen me to leave the world behind.                                                          John 15:19  


I am no longer my own. God paid a great price for me.                                                 I Cor.6:19 


I am a part of God's chosen and special people.                                                              I Peter 2:9


I was far from God, but Christ offered his life's blood 

as a sacrifice and brought me near.                                                                                    Eph.2:13

Appreciator

Appreciator-Strengths

The appreciator connects with others by valuing those around them.

  • Want others to know they are important simply because of who they are, not for their accomplishments.
  •  Takes an interest in what each family member enjoys by asking them about the activity and if possible joining the activity.
  • Builds up those around them through descriptions of who they are rather than what they accomplish.
  •  Thrives when others show a distinct interest in the things they enjoy and are passionate about.  They are energized when others value them for who they are.


The Appreciator’s Struggles Circumstance and experience can make the Appreciator vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  • Being consumed by the search for Identity. 
  • Believing that personal value comes from superficial qualities instead of from Christ.  
  • Becoming overly concerned with personal appearance or conversely exhibiting no concern for personal appearance.
  • Insisting on their right to decide on activities or conversely losing interest in things they enjoy and only focus on what others enjoy.
  •  Consistently fishes for compliments. 

The Appreciator’s Expectations (Needs)

The Appreciator expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  • To be valued for who they are,
  • Others to be interested in activities they participate in,
  •  Reminders of what their good qualities are.

Connection with God

The appreciator connects with God based on the belief that God appreciates and values His creation unconditionally. When this relationship is strong, the appreciator has a strong sense of identity and personal value. Because of this, bad decisions and events are not likely as likely to derail them or their relationship with God.

How God Connects to You

There is more happiness in heaven because of one sinner who turns to God than over ninety-nine good people who don't need to.

Even the hairs on my head are counted.

To God, I am very dear, and He loves me. He gave up nations and people to rescue me.

Christ does not speak to me as His servant. He speaks to me as His friend.

I was the weakest of all nations, but the LORD chose me because he loves me.

Scripture Reference

Luke 15:7 


Mat. 10:30 


Isaiah 43:4

John 15:15


Deut. 7:7-8


Comforter

Comforter-Strengths

The comforter focuses on being attentive to the needs to those around them. 

  • Excellent listener and have a high level of empathy.
  • Sensitive to the needs of those who are hurting. 
  • Caring and compassionate.
  • Thrive most when they know those in their life are free from hurt or pain.
  • Tend to the needs of others before themselves 
  • When hurting, they crave connection to others, even if that connection is simply being together or a simple touch.

The Comforter’s Struggles Circumstance and experience can make the Comforter vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  • Internal conflict over the appropriateness of showing emotion as well as empathy. 
  • Avoiding relationships, not expressing their hurt to others or having an exaggerated response to personal hurt or loss.
  • Finding themselves in one-sided relationships where they are constantly providing comfort but rarely receiving it in return. Moreover, in some cases, they may find the opposite to be true.


The Comforter’s Expectations (Needs)

The Comforter expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  • Comfort when hurting,
  • Needs to know they can comfort others,
  • Need others to respond to efforts the comforter makes for comforting.

Connection with God

The comforter views God as the comforter who listens and responds to the hurts of his creation. They have an intimate understanding of God’s attentiveness to the hurts and needs of His creation. He is their first stop when struggling or hurting.

How God Connects to You

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

God blesses those people who grieve. I will find comfort.

The Father is a merciful God, who always gives me comfort.


Christ gives me peace, the kind of peace that only He can give. It isn't like the peace that this world can give. So I will not be worried or afraid.

The Lord has given me trouble and sorrow as my food and drink. But I will again see the Lord, my teacher, and He will guide me.

Scripture Reference


Romans 8:18


Matt. 5:4


2 Cor.1:3-4



John 14:27


Isa. 30:20

What I Did This Week

Instructions

Each day this week, review the information recorded in Let Me Tell You What I Need. Record you experienced the Provider, Guardian or Planner connections style. Be honest. Try to use the statements and scripture above to help you.  Use your journal to record your reactions and any temptations that would keep you trapped in your old patterns.  Remember it is important to be able to recognize how you are connecting to God, others and your circumstances.

Day One

Example

I was invited to a movie, the night of a party (I did not get invited to) by a friend. (Connector)

Record you experienced the Connector, Appreciator and Comforter connections style.

Day 2

Example

I was invited to a movie, the night of a party (I did not get invited to) by a friend. (Connector)

Record how you experienced the Connector, Appreciator and Comforter Connections Style

Day 3

Example

I was invited to a movie, the night of a party (I did not get invited to) by a friend. (Connector)

Record how you experienced the Connector, Appreciator and Comforter Connections Style

Day Four

Example

I was invited to a movie, the night of a party (I did not get invited to) by a friend. (Connector)

Record how you experienced the Connector, Appreciator and Comforter Connections Style

Day Five

Example

I was invited to a movie, the night of a party (I did not get invited to) by a friend. (Connector)

Record how you experienced the Connector, Appreciator and Comforter Connections Style

Day 6

Example

I was invited to a movie, the night of a party (I did not get invited to) by a friend. (Connector)

Record how you experienced the Connector, Appreciator and Comforter Connections Style

Discuss: Sharing with One Other Person

Instructions

At least once this week, meet or talk to your accountability team.  During this time you can do a journal together, and pray for the prayer requests on your list.  It is also important that accountability partners connect with each other through the top Connection Style.  Use the questions provided to build your relationship with your Accountability Team.

List Time, Date and type of contact

Think about how your team connected this week. Describe how they attempted to connect using your top connection style. What was your response?

Think about how your team connected this week. Describe how you attempted to connect using their top connection style. What was their response?

What are the boundaries for contact for each person on your team? (i.e. don’t call after 9pm, frequency of contacts)

Practice: Let Me Tell You about the New Me

Think about how you connected with someone close to you. Describe how you attempted to connect using their top connection style. What was their response?

Week 4: Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover

Preparing to Stand Firm-The Key

Scriptures: This week's Word

Heb. 4:16, John 15:5, I John 4:4, I John 2:27, Isa. 41:13, Psalm 31:24, Rom 8:31, Heb. 12:1, John 15:16, 2 Tim. 4:7, Rom. 2:10, Matt. 25:23, I Cor. 9:25, James 1:12, I Cor. 6:20, Isa. 40:11, John 3:16, Ex. 34:6, Eph. 5:2.

Idea: This Week's Focus: Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover

Helper

You don't have to do it all on your own.  Most of us live our busy, hectic lives under the false assumption that no one is willing to help.   We all need help from time to time to get through this life, whether it’s a babysitter for the weekend so you can get away, or a co-worker volunteering to help you finish a tough project.  We cannot survive without the help of those around us.  I think the hardest part is learning to ask for help when we need it and learning to accept help.  It's not an easy thing to do and requires setting aside our pride and letting someone else assist us.

"But sometimes there is just no one who can help!" This does happen, but we still have a support system, Christ said we could always lean on Him; He will carry our burdens for us. Without a doubt, He is our ultimate helper and is always willing to lend a hand.  Once again you only have to ask and let go of your pride and sense of control.

Encourager

It seems that as a species, humans find it much easier to tear one another down as opposed to lifting one another up.  How many times has someone’s light-hearted teasing hurt you?  Do you find yourself sarcastically giving someone a hard time, or even putting them down all in the name of fun? Do these comments motivate you to complete a task, or do your best on a project? Of course not, they are disheartening, even when used in jest. 

On the other hand, how much better does it feel when someone says something positive, something motivating, something good about you or your efforts?  I am often energized to go the extra mile and push through a rough situation just by having heard an encouraging word. Each of us needs encouragement. We need those around us to help us push through, to motivate us, and to let us know they believe in us.  

Acknowledger

As I worked on this book, in 2003, I had two small "helpers" that sought recognition from me about every 15 minutes.  My helpers were my two grandchildren, Angel, age 4, and Isaac, age 2.  I could depend on them to come to the office periodically to show me their latest costumes and make- believe adventures.  A simple response such as, "Wow, that is so cool!" was sufficient to send them on their way to create again.  Because one of my primary Connection Styles is Acknowledger, offering the little comments to their creations was easy for me. 

Acknowledgment from others is an important part of building healthy relationships for anyone who connects as an Acknowledger.  This week you have the opportunity to discover the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Acknowledger and how God is your Acknowledger.

Lover

Christ came to show the world what love is.  He [Christ] was the demonstration of God's love for all humanity and all eternity. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son."  John 3:16. God "gave" His love to us through His Son.  Affection is showing love in simple, yet powerful and non-threatening ways to others. 

Although touch is an essential part of our human existence, it is often misused and misunderstood.  Touch is only one way that love is expressed, but too often is the only way we believe we can give or receive love.  In reality, love is expressed in many ways depending on the individual's needs, personality and the relationship with others.  According to Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages, love is expressed in one of five ways - words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service or physical touch.  Your top relational needs will also impact how you give and receive love.  Although the world would have you believe that hugs, kisses or other types of physical contact are the only way to express love, Christ demonstrated all five of Chapman's love languages while He was here on earth.

As you complete the lessons this week, you have the opportunity to discover the strengths, struggles and expectations of the Lover and how God demonstrates His love.


Key Declaration

  1. I confess that I have sinned and ask for prayer and pray for my sisters and brothers so that I may be healed. (James 5:16) I am a new creation in Christ Jesus, and nothing can separate me from the love of God. (Romans 8:37-38)
  2. I will not judge, lest I be judged; for with what judgment I judge, I will be judged; and with the measure I use it will be measured back to me. For I will not look at the speck in my brother’s or sister’s eye and not consider the plank in my own eye. I will first remove the plank from my own eye. (Matthew 7:1-4)
  3. Therefore if I approach the throne of God and remember that I have offended or hold resentment toward a brother or sister, I will leave the place of worship, go and be reconciled to my brother or sister, either directly or through prayer and submission to the Holy Spirit. Then I will return to worship and give my gift at the altar. (Matthew 5:23-24)

1. Last week’s declaration talked about making an inventory of your sins. This week the declaration asks you to confess them. Why is it important to confess your sins?

2. Why is important to consider others in your journey?

Learn: Daily Application of the Word:

Instructions

  1.  Review The Key section for Week Three.
  2. Read aloud The Conqueror’s Prayer
  3. Read the scriptures listed below aloud each day
  4. At the end of the end of the day answer the questions listed below the Scriptures.

Scriptures for the Week

God is my helper because the Word says…

Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.

Heb. 4:16

Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit.

John 15:5

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.

I John 4:4

The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.

1 John 2:27

He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Isa. 41:13

God is my encourager because the Word says…

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

Psa.31:24

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Rom. 8:31

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

Heb. 12:1

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

John15:16

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful.

2 Tim. 4:7

God is my acknowledger because the Word says…

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.

Rom. 2:10

Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

Mat.25:23

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Eph. 2:6

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.

I Cor. 9:25

God will bless me, if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

James 1:12

God loves me, because the Word says…

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

I Cor. 6:20

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

Isa. 40:11

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

John 3:16

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

Exo. 34:6

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Eph. 5:2


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my helper because the Word says…

Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.

Heb. 4:16

Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit.

John 15:5

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.

I John 4:4

The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.

1 John 2:27

He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Isa. 41:13

God is my encourager because the Word says…

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

Psa.31:24

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Rom. 8:31

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

Heb. 12:1

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

John15:16

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful.

2 Tim. 4:7

God is my acknowledger because the Word says…

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.

Rom. 2:10

Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

Mat.25:23

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Eph. 2:6

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.

I Cor. 9:25

God will bless me, if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

James 1:12

God loves me, because the Word says…

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

I Cor. 6:20

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

Isa. 40:11

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

John 3:16

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

Exo. 34:6

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Eph. 5:2


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my helper because the Word says…

Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.

Heb. 4:16

Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit.

John 15:5

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.

I John 4:4

The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.

1 John 2:27

He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Isa. 41:13

God is my encourager because the Word says…

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

Psa.31:24

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Rom. 8:31

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

Heb. 12:1

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

John15:16

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful.

2 Tim. 4:7

God is my acknowledger because the Word says…

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.

Rom. 2:10

Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

Mat.25:23

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Eph. 2:6

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.

I Cor. 9:25

God will bless me, if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

James 1:12

God loves me, because the Word says…

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

I Cor. 6:20

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

Isa. 40:11

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

John 3:16

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

Exo. 34:6

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Eph. 5:2


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my helper because the Word says…

Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.

Heb. 4:16

Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit.

John 15:5

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.

I John 4:4

The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.

1 John 2:27

He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Isa. 41:13

God is my encourager because the Word says…

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

Psa.31:24

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Rom. 8:31

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

Heb. 12:1

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

John15:16

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful.

2 Tim. 4:7

God is my acknowledger because the Word says…

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.

Rom. 2:10

Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

Mat.25:23

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Eph. 2:6

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.

I Cor. 9:25

God will bless me, if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

James 1:12

God loves me, because the Word says…

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

I Cor. 6:20

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

Isa. 40:11

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

John 3:16

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

Exo. 34:6

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Eph. 5:2


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my helper because the Word says…

Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.

Heb. 4:16

Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit.

John 15:5

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.

I John 4:4

The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.

1 John 2:27

He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Isa. 41:13

God is my encourager because the Word says…

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

Psa.31:24

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Rom. 8:31

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

Heb. 12:1

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

John15:16

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful.

2 Tim. 4:7

God is my acknowledger because the Word says…

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.

Rom. 2:10

Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

Mat.25:23

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Eph. 2:6

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.

I Cor. 9:25

God will bless me, if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

James 1:12

God loves me, because the Word says…

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

I Cor. 6:20

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

Isa. 40:11

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

John 3:16

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

Exo. 34:6

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Eph. 5:2


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Scriptures for the Week

God is my helper because the Word says…

Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.

Heb. 4:16

Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit.

John 15:5

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.

I John 4:4

The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.

1 John 2:27

He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Isa. 41:13

God is my encourager because the Word says…

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

Psa.31:24

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Rom. 8:31

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

Heb. 12:1

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

John15:16

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful.

2 Tim. 4:7

God is my acknowledger because the Word says…

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.

Rom. 2:10

Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

Mat.25:23

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Eph. 2:6

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.

I Cor. 9:25

God will bless me, if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

James 1:12

God loves me, because the Word says…

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

I Cor. 6:20

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

Isa. 40:11

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

John 3:16

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

Exo. 34:6

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Eph. 5:2


When did you read the scripture(s)?

How did reading the scripture(s) affect your mindset and your reactions to the events of your day?

How did the time of day that you read the scripture(s) affect your thoughts and feelings throughout the day?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Commit: Capturing your Thoughts

Instructions

Use the  Taking Captives Journal that was included in your Welcome Packet record journals this week. At the end of the week complete the Weekly Summary of Journals. Be prepared to share one or two journals with your accountability group. 

Identify: Taking a Closer Look

Let Me Tell You What I Need

This week we focused on the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger, and Lover. Each morning this week review the Strengths, Struggles, and Expectations of each style to understand how individuals connect with others, with their circumstances, and with God for each connection style.

Helper

Helper-Strengths

The helper connects with others through providing support and assistance.

  • Available to lend a helping hand is a priority.
  • Provide guidance, locates resources and develop skills in others. 
  • Recognizes the needs of others
  • frequently behind the scenes of a situation or project.
  • Thrives when they know they’ve made a difference by taking the load off someone’s shoulders.
  •  Strongest connections are relationships that other a give and take of support and assistance.

The Helper’s Struggles Circumstance and experience can make the Helper vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  1. Being manipulated into on too much or taking over a task for someone
  2. Giving someone money instead of helping them find resources
  3. Becoming overwhelmed and exhausted
  4. Feeling entitled to help from other, the government or God
  5.  Becoming distraught or stuck when no one helps them in difficult situations

The Helper’s Expectations (Needs)

The Helper expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  1. To support those in need,
  2.  To know they made a difference,
  3.  Support of others (may not ask for it.)


Connection with God Helper

The Bible’s stories of helping the downtrodden, the widow, and the orphan resonate with the helper.  Their connection with God grows through their work in helping others.

How God Connects to You


Whenever I am in need, I come bravely before the throne of God. There I will find help.


Christ is the vine, and I am one of the branches. If I stay joined to Him, and He stays joined to me, then I will produce lots of fruit

God's Spirit is in me and is more powerful than the one that is in the world.


The Spirit is truthful and teaches me everything.


He is the LORD my God. He is holding my hand.  He is here to help me.

Scripture Reference


Heb. 4:16



John 15:5


I John 4:4


1 John 2:27


Isa. 41:13


Encourager

Encourager-Strengths

The encourager connects by showing they believe in others’ ability to achieve a goal or to make the right choice in a difficult situation. 

  • A powerful cheerleader
  • Their positive attitude can be a motivating force for change in the lives of those closest to them. 
  • Emphasize the strengths of those around them
  • See most individual’s the best potential.
  • Optimist
  • Thrives when others believe in them and cheer them on in their goals and choices.
  • Prefer being around those with positive attitudes and enjoy being inspired by those around them.

The Encourager’s Struggles 

Circumstance and experience can make the Encourager vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  1. Becoming discouraged/apathetic when others do not believe the encourager has the power to make a change or achieve a goal. 
  2. Hiding their goals or desires to change for fear others will not believe in them.
  3. Becoming disheartened or angry when those they encourage do not follow through on a goal or fall into old patterns.
  4. Teasing, using sarcasm or even bullying others when the encourager is anxious, unsure or struggling.
  5. Crossing the line from motivator and encourager to the controller.
  6.  The temptation to simply take control and push others too hard is strong.

The Encourager’s Expectations (Needs)

The Encourager expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  • Others to believe in them,
  • To set goals,
  • Encouragement when trying to achieve a goal.

Connection with God

God’s encouragement of His people in Scripture motivates the encourager.  They also actively look for His direction and approval when making changes in their life and when encouraging others in life changes.  

How God Connects to You

All who trust the LORD, be cheerful and strong.

If God is on my side, can anyone be against me?

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around me! I must be determined to run the race that is ahead of me, keeping my eyes on Jesus, who leads me.

God chose me and sent me out to produce fruit, the kind of fruit that will last.

I have fought well. I have finished the race, and I have been faithful

Scripture Reference

Psa.31:24

Rom. 8:31



Heb. 12:1

John15:16


2 Tim. 4:7

Acknowledger

Acknowledger-Strengths

The acknowledger connects with others by recognizing their accomplishments and hard work.

  • Consistently rewards those they supervise for a job well done.
  • Careful to emphasize what others do well. Acknowledge even small victories with some outward act.
  • Thrives in an environment where their accomplishments and efforts are recognized. 
  •  The level of confidence is positively affected when a supervisor or loved ones acknowledge even small achievements.

The Acknowledger’s Struggles 

Circumstance and experience can make the Acknowledger vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  1. Becoming discouraged/lacking motivation (or conversely overworking themselves!)
  2. Developing anxiety or apathy when relationships with authority figures are unclear.
  3. Finding it challenging to give gracefully or accept recognition.
  4. Exaggerating (or pretending to downplay) their accomplishments and hard work.
  5. Teasing or belittling the accomplishments of others
  6. Focusing on a works based faith, instead of one based on faith and grace

 Pride can be an obstacle to the acknowledger, convincing them to work hard for their glory instead of finding contentment and connection through the humble recognition they find (from God and others) in working for God’s Glory.

The Acknowledger’s Expectations (Needs)

The Acknowledger expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  1. Their achievements recognized,
  2. Know what boss or supervisor thinks of their work,
  3. Reassurance that they have done a good job.

Connection with God

The acknowledger’s connection with God will often find focus in working out their faith and the grace they have received. Acknowledgers who can connect strongly with God’s recognition of His children can function with a high level of confidence and focus regardless of how frequently other’s provide an acknowledgment to them.

How God Connects to You

All who do right will be rewarded with glory, honor, and peace.


Well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of thy Lord. (KJV)

God has given me a place beside Christ in heaven.

Athletes work hard to win a crown that cannot last, but I do it for a crown that will last forever.


God will bless me if I don't give up when my faith is being tested. He will reward me with a glorious life, just as he rewards everyone who loves him.

Scripture Reference


Rom. 2:10


Mat.25:23


Eph. 2:6


I Cor. 9:25



James 1:12


Lover

Connection Style

Lover-Strengths

The lover connects with others through affection.

  • Demonstrates affection through physical, verbal or even through the simple gift of time. 
  • Makes others feel relaxed and wanted.
  • Hugs, back rubs, and even a simple touch to the arm or hand come naturally to them and the lover shares these with others freely.
  • Communicating love whether through touch, words, gifts or time is a priority.
  • Strongest connections are with those that express affection toward them. 
  • Most content in a relationship where there are mutual expressions of love is common.
  • May not express affection in every way possible. 

The Lover’s Struggles Circumstance and experience can make the Lover vulnerable to the following behaviors:

  1. Pushing others away and avoiding affection for fear of being hurt. Their emotions run strong and sometimes it is easier to avoid them.
  2. Feeling disconnected when they do not receive sufficient affection from someone they love.
  3. Developing poor physical boundaries
  4. Losing awareness of others
  5. Possible discomfort with physical affection.

 Seeking to find physical intimacy and connection through sexual contact regardless of their marital state.

The Lover’s Expectations (Needs)

The Lover expects (needs) the following in most daily activities:

  1. Affection expressed frequently,
  2. Reassurance that they are loved,
  3.   Attempts at giving affection are reciprocated.

Connection with God

The lover sees God as loving to His creation unconditionally and believes God’s love cannot be lost for any reason. Scriptures about God’s steadfast love for his creation will resound strongly with the lover. For this reason, the Lover is a valuable friend for those who feel unloved and separated from God.

How God Connects to You

God paid a great price for me. I will use my body to honor God.

The LORD cares for his nation, just as shepherds care for their flocks. He carries the lambs in his arms.

God loved me so much that he gave his only Son.

God is merciful and patient with His people. He shows great love, and He can be trusted.

I will let love be my guide because Christ loved me and offered his life for me.

Scripture Reference


I Cor. 6:20

Isa. 40:11


John 3:16


Exo. 34:6


Eph. 5:2


What I Did This Week

Instructions

you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover connections style. Be honest. Try to use the statements and scripture above to help you.  Use your journal to record your reactions and any temptations that would keep you trapped in your old patterns.  Remember it is important to be able to recognize how you are connecting to God, others and your circumstances

Day One

Example

When I submitted a difficult project, my boss told me what amazing work I had done. (Acknowledger)

Record you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover connections style.

Day 2

Example

When I submitted a difficult project, my boss told me what amazing work I had done. (Acknowledger)

Record how you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover Connections Style

Day 3

Example

When I submitted a difficult project, my boss told me what amazing work I had done. (Acknowledger)

Record how you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover Connections Style

Day Four

Example

When I submitted a difficult project, my boss told me what amazing work I had done. (Acknowledger)

Record how you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover Connections Style

Day Five

Example

When I submitted a difficult project, my boss told me what amazing work I had done. (Acknowledger)

Record how you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover Connections Style

Day 6

Example

When I submitted a difficult project, my boss told me what amazing work I had done. (Acknowledger)

Record how you experienced the Helper, Encourager, Acknowledger and Lover Connections Style

Discuss: Sharing with One Other Person

Instructions

At least once this week, meet or talk to your accountability team.  During this time you can do a journal together, and pray for the prayer requests on your list.  It is also important that accountability partners connect with each other through the top Connection Style.  Use the questions provided to build your relationship with your Accountability Team.

List Time, Date and type of contact

Think about how your team connected this week. Describe how they attempted to connect using your top connection style. What was your response?

How will the insight you gained change what you do tomorrow?

Think about how you connected with someone close to you. Describe how you attempted to connect using their top connection style. What was their response?

Think about how your team connected this week. Describe how you attempted to connect using their top connection style. What was their response?

What are the boundaries for contact for each person on your team? (i.e. don’t call after 9pm, frequency of contacts)

Practice: Let Me Tell You about the New Me

Appendix A

Guidelines for Participants

Mission

The Luke Collective, Inc. is a multi-faceted program designed to empowers individuals from all walks of life to live their best life by:

  1. Learning to effectively change negative thought patterns
  2. Identifying the source of destructive behaviors
  3. Discovering their uniqueness
  4. Developing healthy relationships

Objectives and Personal Goals

Objectives for Ground Zero

Learn how to capture your thoughts and stop negative spiraling of emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.

Identify and learn how to connect with God, others and your circumstances in healthy ways instead of acting out in negative patterns.

Realize the power of renewing your mind with God’s word through the How God Connects to Us statements.

Learn what it means to be accountable and develop accountability relationships within your team.

Personal Goals

In addition to the above objectives, consider your personal goals for the next four weeks.

Below list three goals you want to attain by the end of Living as Conquerors: Ground Zero.   Goals will help you focus on what is important and will enable you to celebrate your victories along the way.  Keep your goals simple. Be prepared to discuss your goals with your Accountability team.

Personal Goals-What I want to gain from Living as Conquerors: Ground Zero

Conqueror’s Prayer of Freedom

Instructions

Read the prayer aloud each day and see the difference it makes in your view of yourself. Also, read it when you feel defeated or lost. It will encourage you, strengthen you and renew your mind. Note: some scriptures are paraphrased.

Father in Heaven,

I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature, for I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. (Romans 7:18)  But Lord I also know that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13). Because of this, I offer my body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God, this is my spiritual act of worship. (Romans 12:1)

I will daily examine my ways and test them, and return to the Lord, (Lamentations 3:40) confessing that I have sinned and asking for prayer and I will pray for my sisters and brothers so that I too may be healed. (James 5:16.  I rejoice that I am a new creation in Christ Jesus and that nothing can separate me from the love of God! (Romans 8:38-39)  I humble myself before the Lord so that He may lift me up. (James 4:10)

Father, as I confess my sins, You are faithful and just and will forgive me of my sins and purify me from all unrighteousness.  (I John 1:9)  In Christ Your Son, we have redemption; through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of Your grace that You lavished on us with wisdom and understanding (Ephesians 1:7) Therefore if I approach the throne of God and remember that I have offended or hold resentment toward a brother or sister, I will leave the place of worship, go and be reconciled to my brother or sister, either directly or through prayer and submission to the Holy Spirit. Then I will return to worship and give my gift at the altar. (Matthew 5:23-24)  And I will not judge, lest I be judged for with what judgment I judge, I will be judged; and with the measure I use it will be measured back to me. For I will not look at the speck in my brother or sister’s eye and not consider the plank in my own eye. I will first remove the plank from my own eye. (Matthew 7:1-4) 

Each day, Lord, I will put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, I will be able to stand my ground, and after I have done everything, to stand. (Ephesians 6:13) Keeping this in mind, I will be alert and always keep praying. (Ephesians 6:18b)

 Finally, as you, Father, love me, I will love others. (John 15:9) If someone is struggling with destructive behavior, I will restore him gently, speaking the truth in love, but being careful that I am not tempted. (Galatians 6:1)

In Jesus name, Amen

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